Now that you have been given the duty of chief bridesmaid you need to know what to expect.
THE BASICS
Being asked to be a bridesmaid and share such the run to their momentous day is such a great honour. It can be scary but it’s important to know that not every bride expects the same from there bridesmaid.
Being there for the bride physically and emotionally is the most important job of all. We believe that these 3 tips are the most important:
- Follow the Brides instructions & smile whilst doing it.
- Even if the instruction is a bark or a scream the perfect Chief Bridesmaids smile should never leave her face… believe me, your patience will be tested ladies, it can be a very stressful time for some brides – they dont mean it, its just stress.
- Your most important job before we get to your main duties is to ensure that the Bride is treated like & truly believes that she is a Queen on her all important day.
BEFORE THE WEDDING DAY
Every bride is different and what they expect from the bridesmaid can vary drastically from one bride to another. It might be a good idea to have a chat with your bride very early on to gauge how much she expects from you.
HELP PICK THE WEDDING VENUE
Some couples pick the wedding venue on their own but some brides love to go with their bridesmaid to check out lots of different venues, make a day of it, have some lunch and whittle it down to a select few to decide between.
This might mean attending venues, wedding fairs or wedding venue open days.
HELP PICK THE WEDDING DRESS
Some brides like to bring their chief bridesmaid with them wedding dress shopping. Most brides wait until they have it whittled it down to a few before bringing the full entourage with them.
HELP PICK THE BRIDESMAID DRESSES
It can be a very daunting task for a bride to pick the bridesmaid dresses. A few things to keep in mind is colour scheme, shapes and sizes of all bridesmaids and ensuring everyone feels comfortable in what they are wearing.
ACCESSORISE
There’s so much more to it than just the dress. Help with shoes, jewellery, perfume, make up and much more.
LISTEN AND COMFORT
Wedding planning is a huge undertaking and can be very stressful for the bride to be. Be there for her if she needs help dealing with suppliers, family or emotions.
Possible things that might come up
- Guest list
- Table plan
- Cancellations
- Suppliers
PLAN THE HEN PARTY
Some brides know what they want or what they dont want for a hen party but it is the bridesmaids duty to plan, book and execute the event.
Don’t worry we have everything you need to plan the hen party to rival all hen parties. Feel free to give us a call on 0906479753.
THE WEEK OF THE WEDDING
Every bride is different and what they expect from the bridesmaid can vary drastically from one bride to another. It might be a good idea to have a chat with your bride very early on to gauge how much she expects from you.
BE AVAILABLE
The week before the wedding can be quite intense with last minute jobs that need to be done. It might be necessary to make yourself as available as possible if required maybe even take a few days off work.
Things that might come up during the week before the wedding:
- Last minute shopping
- Venue Decoration
- Dress alterations
- Bridesmaid dress collection
- Wedding dress collection
- Rehearsals
CREATE A WEDDING DAY SURVIVAL KIT
A survival kit for the day of the wedding can be very handy to have on the day.
Click here to get ideas of what to put into the wedding day survival kit
DISCUSS THE DAY
Have a chat with your bride of what is happening on the morning of the wedding.
- Hair
- Makeup
- Transport
- Breakfast
- Make sure there is bubbly ready
- Itinerary
It is a great idea to get an itinerary so you know exactly who should be doing what & when.
- List of suppliers
Get a list of suppliers with contact details so if needed you can have their details to hand.
THE DAY OF THE WEDDING
Every bride is different and what they expect from the bridesmaid can vary drastically from one bride to another. It might be a good idea to have a chat with your bride very early on to gauge how much she expects from you.
MAKE SURE SHE HAS A GOOD MORNING
This is your moment!
Make sure the morning of the wedding is magical, happy and upbeat.
- Make sure everyone eats breakfast.
- Pop on the playlist.
- Make sure she doesn’t drink too much bubbly with breakfast.
- Ensure its a calm, happy space no dramas!
- Remove any dramas
- Be on hand to get her into her dress, shoes & jewellery.
- Make sure everyone gets to the church on time.
- Look after the flower girl morning preparations.
- Take lots of selfies.
- Ensure her bag for that night with make up remover, make up and clothes for the next day is package and gets delivered to the honeymoon suite.
BE HER RIGHT HAND WOMAN
Throughout the day it is your duty to make sure she has everything she needs:
- Top up her make up if required.
- Carry a handkerchief for the happy tears.
- Help her go to the toilet.
- Carry the brides essentials such as phone etc…
- Fix her dress throughout the day for photos.
- Have that emergency kit to hand.
- Help with photos – rounding people up can be hard for the photographer if he doesn’t know people.
- Mingle with the guests as she might not get around to everyone.
- Arrange for bubbly/flowers/balloons in the brides room.
- Take her bouquet throughout the day.
- Be available for the first dance.
- Take envelopes from guests (be sure to discuss this with the bride beforehand).
- Make sure everyone signs the guest book.
- Help her change if she is having an evening outfit.
- Encourage guests to dance.
Keep Calm
The most important of all – No matter how stressed you get ….DO NOT TELL THE BRIDE!!!!!!
Make it seem as easy as pie and SMILE!
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